Acknowledgements


Acknowledgements for the imagery and the ideas—


Elise Sutton’s Guide To Loving Female Authority

“A site dedicated to Female Domination and male submission within loving and caring relationships”

The purpose of this site is to examine the Female Domination lifestyle. What is Female Domination? Why do men desire Female Domination? How do couples practice Female Domination in today’s society? As we take a closer look at this growing lifestyle, we will discover that Female Domination (or FemDom) is a large tent with many forms and expressions contained therein. To some couples, FemDom is a romantic and sensual lifestyle. To others, it can be an intense expression of human sexuality.

So what is Female Domination? The entire term seems to be a contradiction to our male dominated society. Female Domination did not originate from dominant women or feminists. It was men who coined the phrase Female Domination to categorize their sexual and social desires to submit themselves to the female gender.

Ladies, what are you looking for in a man? How would you describe the perfect man? How about a man that would worship the ground that you walked on? A man that would focus his energy and his attention on you all of the time. A man that would treat you like a Queen, would pamper you, give you foot and body massages, and who would get more pleasure out of pleasuring you than receiving pleasure himself. How about a man that do whatever you told him to do, without arguing or complaining? A man that would not only do all of his chores like cutting the grass and washing the cars, but would also do housework, the laundry, the grocery shopping, and even the cooking.  How about a man that would wine and dine you and shower you with gifts? A man that would not cop jealous attitudes whenever you talk with or spend time with another man. Above all, a man that would love you with all of his heart and who would view you as his Goddess.

Sounds like the perfect man, huh? Sounds almost too good to be true, doesn’t it? A fantasy, a dream that naïve young girls have. Well, I am here to tell you that you can have such a relationship with such a man. As a matter of fact, you are probably already living with a man that has the potential to become this perfect man. You are already working with men like this and you pass men everyday who are like this. There are men everywhere that have the potential and even the desire to be this perfect man that I just described. The key is not where to find the perfect man but how to find the perfect man? The answer to this question lies within. You have the power to draw these men to you and to train them to be the perfect boyfriend, husband, and lover. You, as a female, hold the key.

Females have a power over men.

http://www.femalesuperiority.com
http://elisesutton.homestead.com


FLR WORLD JOY: A Better World Through Superior Female Leadership

Illustrated Guide to Personal and Social Progress by Female Domination

Female domination not only changes the world one man at a time,
it can also be beneficially applied to every aspect of life and society.

https://www.flrworldjoy.com


Scandalous: entertainment for women

Scandalouswomen.com (2012):
https://web.archive.org/web/20120121123511/http://scandalouswomen.com/about/

About

Have you ever noticed that men who sleep with a variety of women, moving from one conquest to the next, are often admired while women who engage in the same behavior are branded as ‘sluts?’ We noticed it, too, back in 1999 when Scandalouswomen began as a Yahoo! Club. Many who stumbled upon that fledgling online community were appalled. Some in the BDSM community labled us “Femdom lite.” Others in the swinging community shunned us for taking too much power out of the hands of men in the arena of open relationships specifically and female sexuality in general. Yet they, and we, were unaware that an entire social and political mini-movement was bubbling under the international psyche – one that created a brand new component of feminism that seemed tailor-made for Scandalouswomen.

Sex-positive Feminism, sometimes called stiletto feminism, lipstick feminism, and slut-feminism, is a movement that was formed in the early 1980s and centers on the idea that sexual freedom is an essential component of women’s freedom. Some believe it is a natural progression from the sexual revolution of the 60s. Others declare it is a back-lash against the conservative movement that has endeavored to put limits on what women can and cannot do sexually.

An article from 2000 in Time featuring the cast of “Sex and the City” drew some attention to this phenomenon. The August 2000 issue of George magazine also featured it, calling this a “new kind of feminism.” It described the “Stiletto Feminist” as the woman who “embraces easy expressions of sexuality that enhances rather than detracts from women’s freedom.” Current popular manifestations are “Lipstick Jungle” and “Cashmere Mafia.”

Sex-positive feminism, as demonstrated above, is very prevalent in the media. There is no shortage of role models for the intelligent and sexually aware female. Dr. Susan Hopkins, a Lecturer in The School of Journalism and Communication at the University of Queensland, wrote a cultural analysis of the contemporary archetype of the stiletto feminist in popular culture in her book “Girl Heroes.” As developed and inspired by the Spice Girls and their vision of Girl Power, girl heroes (both real and fictional) are self-controlled, successful, feminine characters, who are often sexually aware. In addition to the Spice Girls, Hopkins explores the roles of Britney Spears; supermodels; Lara Croft; Xena; the Charlie’s Angels of the 2000s; Sabrina, the Teenage Witch; Mulan; The Powerpuff Girls; and Buffy The Vampire Slayer in developing this new image which informs and inspires pro-active, strong, and empowered behavior in young women.

Girl Heroes draws comparisons between these images and earlier, similar ones, such as those created by Emma Peel of The Avengers, the 1970s television show Wonder Woman, Madonna and the Charlie’s Angels of the 1970s, pointing out the relative independence of this archetype from male, parental, or even peer support. (source)

Beyond the realm of fictional kick-ass chicks and pop superstars is the real world. A book that takes on the practical application of sex-positive feminism is The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt. It is credited with raising awareness of the possibility of consensual non-monogamy as a lifestyle, and providing practical guidance on how such long term relationships work and are put into practice.

The authors define the term slut as “a person… who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.” The term is reclaimed from its usual use as an insult and is used to signify a person who is accepting of their enjoyment of sex and the pleasure of intimacy with others. The book discusses how to live an active life with multiple concurrent sexual relationships.

Scandalouswomen.com attempts to be the online presence for the sex-positive feminist, yet she is hard to define. She’s more than a media creation. She’s a wife, mother, sister, girlfriend. She could be your daughter. The Libertine in the NY Press give as good a definition as any. The Scandalous woman is a sexually charged being—sexually driven, sexually inspired and most definitely sexually open… She delights in the dance of seduction, revels in the thrill of romance and rejoices in the ecstasy of tingling sensations. All this she indulges without ever losing her cool, elusive demeanor. She is never overbearing, clingy or cloying. She knows when the moment is hers, and she knows when it has escaped. She knows when it is not there at all, and she knows that if there is no moment, there is no point. She lives for the moments—moments of connection, seduction, surrender, conquest. When she says something as forward as, “You make me wet” or “He’s always a great fuck” or even the sweet double entendre of “Thank you for coming. I do hope you come again soon,” she is bold and proud, yet graceful.

She may be a romantic dreamer, a cynic, a femme fatale, a goddess, a voyeur, an exhibitionist. She can be candid, cold, aloof, manipulative, intimidating, kinky, mysterious, seductive, dominant, submissive, loving and generous. No matter what she may be at any given moment, she is always authentic…

She may be cruel at times, but her cruelty is a result of honesty… She will never say, “I’ll be faithful, darling. I only want to be with you now and forever!” She can say, however, “I only want to be with you, right now,” if that is indeed the truth of the moment. Yet, the person who hears these words is foolish to assume that they extend beyond the moment or imply exclusivity.

She has few inhibitions. (I may go so far as to say that she has none.) By conforming to the standards of modern sexual practice, she is clean, safe, and takes reasonable precautions, but she is not excessively worried about the possibility of undesirable consequences. She would rather enjoy the risk of having multiple sex partners than miss the pleasures of varied sexual experience. Her safe practice gives her peace of mind, and she does not dwell on the horrors of possibility.

She understands that dishonesty and deception are far more painful than the open awareness that you are not her one and only sex partner. She may be cruel, but she has compassion, and is free. At least, freedom is her desire, her lifelong quest: free to experience, free to roam, free to love, free to leave. Free from guilt, jealousy and deception. Free with others and free within her self.

Scandalouswomen.com (2008):
https://web.archive.org/web/20080224011559/http://www.scandalouswomen.com/

The Net’s #1 Cuckolding Lifestyle Site!

“Scandalouswonen is a lot like Playgirl  and Cosmo but much raunchier!  Beneath its highly sexed cover, this site presents a healthy message:  If its good for the guys, its good for the girls!  Love it!  5 stars!”

“If you’re looking for an erotica site for women, this one rules!”

“scandalouswomen.com is definitely for the Cosmo Girl’s trashier sister!”
                  – The Adultwebmaster

https://web.archive.org/web/*/www.scandalouswomen.com


The CFNM Village
(Visual Sensations for Women)

The CFNM Village (2020):
http://cfnmvillage.com/

The Original Site for the Clothed-Female/Naked Male Environment

The CFNM Village was founded by the originators of the term “CFNM” – an acronym created to describe and define Clothed-Female/Naked-Male activities. Since its creation, CFNM has become a world-wide phenomenon with enthusiasts found in countries around the globe. This website provides an introduction to the intent and purpose of CFNM while also providing resources for interested women and men to help them experience the wondrous situations CFNM can provide.

Visual Sensations for Women (2007):
https://web.archive.org/web/20070208003847/http://www.sensations4women.com/

Empowering the female in our society is an important aspect of what we do.   Regardless of whether you are a visual woman that enjoys the aesthetics of the nude male, a feminist that delights in witnessing men denuded  of their power and clothes in front of other women, or a dominant female that enjoys watching a man stripped naked and humiliated, we invite all women (and men) of an adult age to enjoy the photos and stories contained herein to further this community.

http://cfnmvillage.com


CFNM.net: Adventures in CFNM!

“… a site devoted to clothed women stripping and embarrassing totally nude men.”

Men – if you haven’t been stripped by a rowdy gang of girls, you haven’t lived!

Ladies – This is for you. It’s time you called the tune at a party where you’re the majority. You’ve had a good night out with your girlfriends… What do you want? Naked Men! And you won’t take NO for an answer.

http://www.cfnm.net


Pure Cunnilingus

Welcome to Pure Cunnilingus

Congratulations! You’ve found the largest and oldest site dedicated to male-female cunnilingus on the web. Pure Cunnilingus has been offering quality pussy-licking porn since 2003.

For too long, cunnilingus has been neglected in pornography. Finding videos of guys going down is hard work – muff diving is usually only a “lesbian” activity or else it’s given very short shrift in “couples” porn. Here, it’s different. This site is all about men giving oral sex to women; clit licking, facesitting and male mouths on happy vulvas. There’s a focus on female pleasure and female fantasy, with many videos filmed from a female perspective.

Pure Cunnilingus proudly offers sex positive, ethical porn including well-made erotic videos from award-winning feminist porn director Ms. Naughty. Pure Cunnilingus is one of her oldest sites and now it has been revamped to feature up-to-date, HD pussy licking videos, as well as an entire archive of movies, photos, erotic fiction and articles. Originally designed as porn for women, this site aims to cater to everyone who wants to see respectful, positive, high-quality porn with plenty of female orgasms.

Ladies, how do you like to be licked?

Slow swirls? Long luscious laps? Fast and furious flicks? Do you like to lie back and let him do all the work, or would you rather sit on his face? Do you want oral sex with cream or champagne? Should he move his tongue sideways or up and down? And do you make sure he never, ever stops until you’re ready?

http://www.purecunnilingus.com


Butlers in the Buff

“The male order company”

“We did it first… nobody does it better.”

Butlers in the Buff are party butlers! They are hand selected to be outgoing, fun and cheeky. They will man the bar, BBQ, serve your plated dinner and mingle with your guests. Trays and equipment are not provided, we at Butlers in the Buff send only a fabulous, hunky server to your door with nothing but his little uniform and a smile!

Butlers in the Buff are great for Hen dos, Birthdays, Bridal and Baby Showers, Pool Parties or just for fun. More inspiration can be found on our Using your butlers page

Not only will your Butler in the Buff serve your food and drinks, he will host your party games and even play them with you! Help yourself to our saucy hen party games.

The devil is in the details and we’ll make sure you’re covered before your handsome party butler shows up at your door!

https://www.butlersinthebuff.com


Abby Winters

“Wholesome young amateur women alone, together, and with their boyfriends”

Abby Winters – Creator of the site

Some people would say that Abby Winters, creator of award-winning erotic website abbywinters.com, is a puzzle wrapped in an enigma – shrouded in a mystery! Certainly, she keeps a low profile and prefers to let the models do the talking.

Starting the successful website in 2000, Abby was disappointed with the quality of amateur content available on the net. She saw sites dressing awesome amateur models up in silly heels and lots of make-up and was disappointed that these sites had missed the appeal of amateur models in the first place – that they are amateur! abbywinters.com was born.

https://www.abbywinters.com


Anne O Nomis: History of the Dominatrix

“My Story” (2020):
https://historyofthedominatrix.com/pages/my-story

Anne O Nomis: My Story

I have always had a strong interest in wisdom which lies in the taboo domain of sexuality. Women’s sexuality (and in addition any non-normative sexuality) has been the subject of shaming, aggression; religious, state and social control. Sexuality is an area of our humanity which has traditionally been forbidden, repressed and censored. 

In 2013 I wrote the book on the Dominatrix’s history and her erotic arts. I use the term ‘Dominatrix’ as an archetype of female sexual power, as well as a secretive craft profession which was passed down from senior Mistress to apprentice – the special knowledge and practices of the psycho-sexual realm of bondage, domination and submission, cross-dressing, fetishes and erotic fantasies.

My research took four years, of dedicated internship in a top dungeon learning from the collective knowledge of the Mistresses, formal research in the British Library and Museum, and into the underground sources of hidden knowledge – to discover the Dominatrix’s history and arts. Image permissions were sought out from the world’s top museums and libraries, vintage polaroids and contemporary art, and brought together for the publication.

What drove me was the desire to share this important information to the world’s academic libraries and to the women themselves. It has made its way around the world, into bookshops, dungeons and training institutes, and the hands of the Dominatrices themselves who write to me – thanking me for telling their history. (A few of the photographs I receive every few weeks from around the world.)

Following this publication, I embarked on another ambitious project. Gathering together texts, images and history on the ancient Goddesses of sexuality, from Mesopotamia into the Levant and Cyprus, her rituals and art, over 3000 years, to share with the world.

From some of the world’s oldest poetry and hymns, to beautiful artwork, knowledge of rituals – of bathing, beautification with sacred symbolic jewels, the setting up of a ritual bed for a Goddess sex ritual with her male consort God or King, meeting in a garden, and the Goddess’s symbolic linking to the efflorescence of abundant growth, and radiance and power.

It is precisely her power however, that threatened the establishing patriarchal monotheism, who would seek to have her symbols burnt and violently cut down. As part of my research I travelled to the site of one of the most important sanctuaries of the ancient world, the Sanctuary of Aphrodite, and traced her journey on the island of Cyprus from where she entered the Greek world.

This research has been compiled into my new book, Flight of the Goddess. It seeks to share the ancient Goddess rituals and artwork with all, which had been negatively painted and violently targeted by early Christianity, who sought amongst other things to cut out God’s consort, and yet her presence lingers in writings, references and artifacts. (Yes, God had a lover and consort / wife, named Asherah.) 

Sexuality is an important part of humanity; put not only to reproduction, but also to pleasure, social bonding, ecstasy, spirituality, identity and connection. 

It is for this reason I am so determined to share knowledge and wisdom of sexuality with humankind. To recover sacred erotic hymns, rituals of the Goddess, and wisdom of practitioners in the erotic arts, in defiance of taboos which seek to shame or prohibit female sexuality.

I don’t see it as a female or feminist cause, but as a people cause. In addition to my writing, I teach as an educator and speak on topics I have researched, including speaking at major BDSM conferences, museum talks, and in salon rooms of erotic boutiques around the world.

https://historyofthedominatrix.com


Cuckold Marriage Info

Cuckolding is often seen from the outside as a kink founded in humiliation and inadequacy but the reality is far different for most couples actively involved in it.

Cuckolding takes the foundation of a stable, loving marriage and extends it to include one or more males who play a specific, sexual role within the relationship.

Contrary to popular myth (especially as expressed through porn), sexual inadequacy is only a significant factor in a minority of cuckold couples. For most couples, sharing her is a loving way to expand the boundaries of their relationship and safely explore a more natural approach to human sexuality and relationships.

A wife-centric, rewarding experience for everyone.

https://cuckoldmarriage.info


Female Worship

“Dedicated to the pleasure, worship and adoration of women.”

https://www.femaleworship.com


PureCFNM

pureCFNM: Clothed Female Naked Male

A Website dedicated to the enjoyment that fully clothed women have at the expense of naked and embarrassed men. See these controlling women strip, fondle, tease and masturbate these helpless guys, who are forced to submit to having their cock and balls groped, examined and wanked until they eventually have to reach orgasm while the women watch.

https://www.purecfnm.com/


Paige Harrison’s The Art of Female Dominance

The New Image of Female Dominance

Welcome to the Members side of my web site, The Art of Female Dominance and the home of Blake Spectator E-Zine. More and more couples, Females and males are wanting to live within this type of an Intentional Living lifestyle. In September 2004 I began this web site as a prototype and started to coin the term ‘Female-Led’ in my writings. It was also at this time that I began to aggressively and assertively advocate and advance the concepts and this terminology to describe this approach to living within an intentional Female-Led relationship lifestyle model. If you believe in the nobility of service to the Female population, I encourage you to surrender and to join my community of individuals who are committing themselves to living a life of Intentional Female Dominance. The term Female-Led builds off of many of the concepts of Elise Sutton and her Loving Female Authority philosophy, but with a fresh interpretation of what Female-Led is all about in the real world we love in. Are you ready for the ball to be thrown a bit faster and hit a lot harder? Then you have come to the right place!

https://web.archive.org/web/*/www.paige-harrison.us


Divine Bitches

“Beautiful women dominate submissive men with pain, humiliation and strap-on fucking”

At Divine Bitches, submissive male slaves submit to female domination at the hands of legendary Domme Maîtresse Madeline and her gang of skilled and ruthless Dominatrices.

http://www.divinebitches.com


Club Pedestal

“A playground for the dominant woman, and those who worship her.”

http://www.clubpedestal.com/


CAKE

CAKE was “an entertainment company dedicated to providing education and information about female sexual culture.”

http://www.cakenyc.com


For the Girls

Your search for good porn for women is over! For The Girls is one of the oldest and largest erotica for women sites on the internet. First online in 2000 and a major paysite since 2003, FTG has been the leader in porn for women for well over a decade. Our focus has always been on the female gaze: we create and curate porn with a female perspective, with a focus on female fantasies and pleasure.

For The Girls is an independent adult site, created by two women who wanted to see porn that reflected their own desires and tastes.

http://www.forthegirls.com


Loverboys: Male Strippers

Male Strippers & Wild Girls

LoverboysUSA features hot male strippers performing at hen nights in the UK and around Europe for wild girls. Each real party is completely different and has 100% real action all filmed live with no hen party ever the same! You will see hot male strippers perform for the wild girls, as each male stripper performs for the girls they seem to have no shame as they grab, suck, and lick the huge cock swinging in their faces!

http://www.loverboysusa.com


Party Hardore

“Real girls from the neighbourhood going nuts for petting, bang & dirty dancing”

https://www.partyhardcore.com


ManServants

A ManServant® is a gentleman sent to treat women like queens.
He’s the life of the party, while making the ladies the stars of the show—all with his tuxedo on.

https://www.manservants.co


Ersties

Our movies are produced by an all-female team. At Ersties, porn lovers and videographers come together to shine a light on the beauty of female sexuality. Here you will find all kinds of women living out different kinks and joyfully sharing their erotic experiences.

https://ersties.com


Ms Naughty: Erotica for Women

“… a gateway into the wonderful world of porn for women.”

https://www.msnaughty.com


Feminist Porn Guide

There’s a new wave happening in porn. It’s positive, realistic, ethical and female-friendly. It’s feminist porn, a different kind of sexual representation that seeks to discard the cliches and negativity of mainstream porn in favour of something better. Feminist porn is inclusive, diverse, educational, passionate and above all, hot. This type of erotica caters to people of all genders and sexualities and depicts every kind of sexual activity, from “standard” heterosexual pairings through to hardcore BDSM and everything in between. So come in, look around, learn more and find the porn that will suit you!

http://www.feministpornguide.com


Woman Thou Art God

“Toward a theology of matriarchy”

http://www.womanthouartgod.com/


Yes, I’m a submissive man!

The online journal and insights of a modern submissiveProud man. I encourage thoughtful discussion of Female Led Relationships and celebrate the Dominant Female/submissive male dynamic in relationships and society. All are welcome.

https://submissivemale.blogspot.com


AbsoluteKim.com

Everything you see here is real, right down to the fact that I am a real suburban wife and parent.  This site is designed for both couples as well as singles. The people in this site with us are not erotic film stars or exotic dancers; they are regular people and parents, people that could be your neighbours.

A Question to Kim – “Is your sub hubby really a small cock cuckold slave?”

Answer- Yes sweetie, he 100% sure is. I love my slave hubby and he has an amazing bod and ass, but he only has a little cock! This is one reason why I swing, for I need to have big cocks in me regularly! Hubby knows this and his love for me and slave life allows him to accept why I must fuck other men to be properly satisfied. Any chance you can cum help me out?

https://web.archive.org/web/20040604080241/http://absolutekim.com/




Bonobo matriarchy

Bonobo Matriarchs Lead the Way

Vanessa Woods: Bonobo Handshake, Book review by Sarah Zielinski, “Bonobo Handshake: A Memoir”, Smithsonian Magazine.

Ellsworth, M. E. (2015). “Book review: Dr. Strangeape, or How to Learn to Stop Worrying and Love the Bonobo.” Evolutionary Psychology, 13 (1), 244-249.

Human evolution / female sexuality

Peterson, A. N., and Guitar, A. E. (2015). “Empowering women: the next step in human evolution?” [Review of Women after all: Sex, evolution, and the end of male supremacy, by M. Konner]. Evolutionary Psychology, 13 (4), 1-3.

Forstmeier, W., Nakagawa, S., Griffith, S. C., and Kempenaers, B. (2014). “Female extra-pair mating: adaptation or genetic constraint?” Trends in Ecology & Evolution, 29 (8), 456-464.

Salvatore, J. F. (2012). “Strangers with benefits: attraction to outgroup men increases as fertility increases across the menstrual cycle.” Masters thesis. University of Tennessee.

Dawson, S. J., Suschinsky, K. D., and Lalumière, M. L. (2012). “Sexual fantasies and viewing times across the menstrual cycle: a diary study.” Archives of Sexual Behavior, 41, 173–183.

Gangestad, S. W., Thornhill, R., and E. Garver, C. E. (2002). “Changes in women’s sexual interests and their partners’ mate-retention tactics across the menstrual cycle: evidence for shifting conflicts of interest.” Proceedings of the Royal Society B, 269 (1494), 975-982.

Miller, G., Tybur, J. M., and Jordan, B. D. (2007). “Ovulatory cycle effects on tip earnings by lap dancers: economic evidence for human estrus?” Evolution and Human Behavior, 28 (6), 375-381.

Pham, M. N., Shackelford, T. K., Holden, C. J., Zeigler-Hill, V., Hummel, A., & Memering, S. L. (2014). “Partner attractiveness moderates the relationship between number of sexual rivals and in-pair copulation frequency in humans (Homo sapiens).” Journal of Comparative Psychology, 128(3), 328–331.


THE FUTURE
IS FEMALE

T-shirt: The Future is Female [otherwild.com]

The original “The Future Is Female” T-shirt design was made for Labyris Books, the first women’s bookstore in New York City, which was opened in 1972 by Jane Lurie and Marizel Rios. The photographer Liza Cowan took a picture of musician Alix Dobkin, her girlfriend at the time, wearing it in 1975. The photograph was done for a slide show she was working on called: “What the Well Dressed Dyke Will Wear.” 

This slogan has lasted through the decades and is reemerging as an empowering statement for all, as female-identified bodies and rights remain under attack. Inflexible and compulsory sexual and gender binaries are used to oppress and deny people their humanity and agency. Otherwild believes in an inclusive, expanded and fluid notion of gender expression, identities and feminisms. We support liberation, embrace our trans sisters and brothers, and call for the end of patriarchal ideology, domination, oppression and violence. We believe that “The Future is Female” is the past, the present and the future, and is language that resonates.


—thanks for the inspiration.


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