This is an almost everyday moment between a couple in the kitchen. Romance and love is obvious, but so is their female-led lifestyle. He wears a collar around his neck; and she grips a ring attached to it: subtly controlling him while they talk. She has a dominance over her submissive partner. This is BDSM in a modern marriage. This is gentle femdom. This is a true female-led relationship. Artist: Caroline O’Grady. “Instigation”. From her Bachelor of Fine Arts thesis at the Pacific Northwest College of Art. Spring 2013. https://mimi.pnca.edu/a/6751